The day was December 31st, 2012. The time was 11:59 pm and exactly one minute later, the clock struck 12 midnight. You yelled “Happy New Year!” and began setting in motion the New Year’s resolutions you had been thinking about at least two months prior. Now, here we are one month later, January 31.
So, tell me, are you the person you thought you would be by this time? Did you stop doing whatever you resolved to stop doing? Or, did you start doing whatever you resolved to start doing? Did you change whatever you said you would change? What about last year, did you make the same New Year’s resolutions on New Year’s Eve 2011 only to end up one month later the exact same person you were on New Year’s Day 2012?
Maybe you’ve revised your resolutions this year, eliminating the goals that you’ve already decided you will never achieve. Or worse yet, are you acting as if you never made any resolutions at all? Because that’s easier, it’s always easier to do nothing.
Now, before you retort “Listen missy, the year just started, it’s just January 31st, and I’ve got plenty of time!” And to that I say, Oh Yeah?, maybe so, but if you are the same person now that you were on January 31st of 2012 and especially on January 31st, 2011, well I think I can safely say that by now, you’ve either revised or given up on the 2013 resolutions. That said, before you send me that nasty e-mail or angry post telling me off, hear me out. Trust me, I’m not just speaking to you, I’m also speaking to me. As a matter of fact, I was only speaking to me; I just thought I’d share my thoughts with you.
It happens every year, I set a goal in the beginning of the year only to have it revised, reduced or eliminated by January 31st. And by that time, I’m not feeling very good about my “non-progress” and I’m feeling even worse if I decided to just quit. That’s the problem with resolutions or even goals, in addition to being the tools that can help you become a better you, they can also be a reminder of who you are not! That’s why in my last entry titled “Change” posted January 1, 2013, I encouraged you to “do something different and set your goals with others in mind.” You can’t go wrong when your desire is to help someone else to be better. However, don’t fret, there’s still time.
So, what’s the solution, how do you not allow your inaction make you feel as if you’ve failed? Easy…..
Let yourself off the hook!
That’s right, let yourself off the hook! There are 365 days in every year and only one of them is December 31st, that leaves 364 days to accomplish your goal. So, let yourself off the hook and so start over, but this time set smaller goals that can be achieved in shorter periods of time. Instead of saying I’m going to lose 50lbs this year, say this week I’m going to cut out the sugar in my coffee and walk twenty minutes each day. After you’ve accomplished that, then you can increase it for the next week, maybe walk for a half hour and cut back on the Mike and Ikes, oh that’s me, never mind. Anywho, you get the idea, don’t be so hard on yourself. Whether you’re trying to lose weight or start a business or like me, write a book, set smaller goals and believe me by this time next year, friends will be asking you “Who Are You!?” with amazement and a smile on their faces!
Until next time, here’s to Living Life with Purpose on Purpose!
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